Advance Directives are needed if there comes a time when your aging parents are unable to make health care decisions for themselves. Federal law states that each patient is in charge of their own medical care and medical decisions.
Each patient must give consent (say "yes" or "no") before any medical
procedure can take place. If your parents are ever incapacitated and
unable to make their own medical choices, an Advanced Directive allows
them to still be in control of their own care, but through the voice of
someone else that they have already chosen. Advance care planning allows
you to begin the conversations about their wishes and desires.
The next brief video explains this from the perspective of the doctor. Several medical doctors will help you understand exactly why it's important for people of all ages to have advance directives.
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One clarification of what you watched. There is a Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care that is discussed here, and it relates to medical decisions ONLY. There is also a Durable Power of Attorney for Finances
that would be needed to handle anything related to money. Power of
Attorneys for Health Care, and Finances are two separate processes, and
one does NOT give authority for the other.
to consider. The simple existence of a valid Advance Directive does not
guarantee that it will be accurately followed by the health care
professionals that are attending to your aging parents. Medical
technology changes rapidly and most often requires human decision-making
in ways that cannot be anticipated by any document.
While the Advance Directive naming a Health Care Power of Attorney permits someone to speak on behalf of your aging parents, only in depth conversations with them ahead of time, will actually empower a surrogate decision maker to make those choices with confidence.
Don't be lulled into believing that this might only be triggered at the end of life. A sudden emergency or illness could temporarily render your parent incapacitated and unable to make their own health care choices. So an Advance Directive is essential, even if your parents are vigorous and in the best of health.
This document usually consists of two primary parts. The document designates both a PERSON and a PROCESS. A chosen Person is legally permitted to make medical decisions on their behalf. This Health Care Power of Attorney (known by different names from state to state) carries the same authority as if he or she was the patient themself.
The Process spells out what actions an incapacitated patient would or would not want in the way of medical intervention at the end of life. These anticipated medical decisions are referred to in some states as a Living Will. So the Advanced Directives combine both the legal designation of a Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care (Person) and the features of a Living Will (Process).
What will you need to talk to your parents about? The list is not
simple or easy. These talks will be about choices of medical care,
treatments, procedures or other options at the end of life. Modern
medical technology has so many possible procedures and machines that can
be routinely prescribed at the end of life whether or not they HELP or
they HARM your parents specific condition. Therefore, you will want to
understand your parents' mindset and beliefs. You will need to know what
is important to them and what they value as to their quality of life.
The conversations should take place over time, and be shared with a
variety of family members, and also, include your parents' doctors.
legal documents, many people believe that they must be completed by a
lawyer. That’s NOT the case. A properly signed document can be completed
by anyone as long as it is witnessed. What matters as much as the
papers, are THE TALKS. Thorough conversations with your parents, along
with the signed documents, are the key. The entire process, known as
Advance Care Planning is what is needed.
To move through this process your parents need:
Finally, the documents need to be distributed to the right people.
Each state has its own version. They vary in requirements and language.
They vary in readability or "legalese". You get the documents from your
doctor. You can get them at any local hospital. You can download them
from your state government website.
organization got a grant to translate every state's Advance Directives
from "legalese" into language that is easy to understand. You can click
here and download a form for an
advance health care directive.
that are valid for each state.
Don't be put off if it
seems long. It looks more intimidating than it needs to. Each state's
version has a section at the beginning that explains the features and
requirements of the document. And each version has a glossary defining
terms at the end.
You can download one for your state and just look through the document to get a feel for what’s required.
your parents live in a different state than you do, they will need to
have the Advance Directive that is valid for their state. Go ahead and
one for their state AND one for your own state so you can get familiar with them and begin to see the differences.
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